What it's Really Like: Loving a Touring Artist
Let's get personal for a sec guys. This is a question I get asked ALL the time. Mostly from people who aren't in the music business. What is it like dating a touring artist? How do you handle not just one but TWO sometimes rigorous touring schedules? Do you ever actually see each other?
So I thought I'd let you guys in on what it's like for me. And for us. My guy, Rick Brantley, is an amazing artist. A feel it in your gut when he sings singer, and one hell of a brilliant songwriter. And I'm obviously not the only one who thinks so because Rick is in high demand on the road.
He's toured with other critically acclaimed artists such as Brandy Clark, John Hiatt and just left for a 25+ date tour with Kiefer Sutherland. He left a few days ago and will be gone for a long time. Over two months. 😢
It's hard not to get down about the reality of being alone for that long. AND for him to be out there missing home for that long. That's not easy either. As the start of the tour loomed closer, I noticed myself getting very protective of our time left together. Outside of work hours I started to want to spend every waking moment attached to his hip, which is not normal for a gal like me who craves alone time.
I suppose one thing that helps us is that we've never known anything else. When Rick and I started dating we were both out on the road a lot so we became used to this "see you when I can" life right off the bat. But we both knew pretty quickly it would be worth it.
I think the thing that we've learned is to make the time we do have together count. Not just to collapse in front of the tv and binge watch some new series (although we do that too!) but to spend time preparing a meal together, or go out to eat somewhere we love or go out and have a few drinks just the two of us. There's honestly nothing I love more than sitting down over beers and talking about our goals, our dreams, and how we're gonna take over the world together. 😉
Sure it's challenging, but knowing that we understand each other in a way that other's wouldn't be able to is so special. I do what he does and he does what I do. So we get it. And when we're not together we talk everyday and always say good morning and goodnight. We text when we can, but we're also respectful of work and work hours. And it works for us.
Some people love being at home. Some love the road. We're lucky that we can have it both ways. It's never easy, but it's always worth it.
How do you guys stay connected to people you love when they're gone? Do you want to see more personal blog posts like this one?
All my 💖,